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A good friend wrote to me yesterday and said “Matt, dearest, we all love you but could you shut up a litle bit.”
Yeah, I posted more than usual yesterday and the signal-to-noise ratio went south as a result. Today, there’s only this one post. I didn’t have time to upload a NaNoWriMo warm-up last night and tonight is going to be busy. Let’s hope I baked all the necessary goodness into this one-post-of-the-day!
Walking eight miles for a date
One of the nice things about living in my neighborhood is the ability to walk everyplace.
One of the silly things about me is that I’ll occasionally try to walk everyplace in my neighborhood.
Last night, I left my ‘hood near Coventry and Euclid Heights at 7:00 to walk to the Lower Shaker Lake. Then we walked her dog around the lake. Then walked the dog home. Then walked to dinner. Then I walked her home and then I walked myself home.
If WalkJogRun is correct, I walked eight miles for this date.
It was a very low-key date. It fit nicely into both of our schedules. It was refreshingly conversational and active, different than a date where you meet and throw 20 questions at each other.
…and for me on my walk home, at 11:00 there was very little traffic and nobody was on the street. I had time to think about the date, the conversation and what I felt & thought. I got to unwind, relax and by the time I got home, I was happy. I think her dog liked me, too.
Experience versus Baggage
It’s interesting how for some people “experience” is something good and means that the other person has had time to learn about life and about themselves. For other people, “experience” means baggage and that a person should be avoided because they have “a history”.
I’m solidly in the “experience is good” camp but we both wondered who are the people in the “experience is baggage” camp. Are they people who have some negative emotional residue from past experiences or relationships? Are they simply selfish, refusing to accept that people they meet existed and have a history that stretches outside of their control?
And now, as requested, I’m going to shut up a little bit.
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I’m tempted to say that experience is baggage for people who don’t, or don’t notice, growth. If you graduated from college and then proceeded through a long sequence of unrelated events that didn’t change you, then you still think of yourself as 21 and you probably see no value in age. Any stories you might have–divorce, getting fired–those are all just things that couldn’t possibly have happened yet to a 21-year-old.
Jeff, I think I agree with you.
One group of people are the ones who probably think they are “just starting” and want somebody who is equally “clean”. I suspect there’s something there too at play with symbolic virginity or purity or something.
The other group, I think, are the ones who have been through some kind of emotional roller coaster and are now obsessed with being “safe”. These are the “no more drama” people who show up in personal ads, I think.
At least, that’s my theory.
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